Falling in love has been undeniably exciting for all of us. To deny of such state is like denying the self of the freedom that it so warrants. More so, to say one has never been in the love bandwagon is like detaching your entire self from the world and of others as well. Indeed, falling in love has been one life spice that invites growth and development to settle in with the self.

To find the one that perfectly fits the gap in your hands is but one tedious quest to undertake. Numerous trails must be surpassed and errors must be corrected along the way. Investment of time and effort might be resorted in but when you are able to experience, realize and feel love through rose colored glasses, then it certainly feels like a home run.

Being able to share part of your own self to another and being loved in return implies a perfectly complete self. Indeed, there is such a thing. In the first place, one is already perfectly complete. Coupled with experience and time, one becomes able to perform at his fullest potential thus enabling him to share part of himself to another. In the process, he becomes individually stable and could not be withered. In other words, because of his confidence in himself, he is able to bear certain uncertainties thus allowing him to grow despite all that love brings in his life.

Indeed, love is not all rainbows and balloons; it too has its fair share of pain and tears. It can really make or break an individual. Thus, one needs to be ready holistically to be able to withstand anything that might come his way.

The way love instills its presence in the self works like that of Neuro Linguistic Programming (hereinafter referred to as NLP). NLP, as a self-improvement tool, persuades the self to see beyond the normal and experience extravagance all at once. It speaks of allowing the self to be at par with what he has envisioned his self to be and at the same time live the life that he has always wanted. In other words, NLP helps the individual highlight his strengths and improve his weaknesses in lieu of the demands of life and love. To do such requires a self that is innately empowered and enriched.

To attain growth of the self takes more than will power and discipline. It seeks to underscore the presence of control thus enabling him to control his innermost self in relation to his external one. More so, NLP allows the self to be neurologically active and linguistically trained to favorably exhibit his true self amidst the many anybody in the world. To be a somebody allows him to come across his true find and be with his love forever. Yes, I am a hopeless romantic who believes in happy ever after and I also believe in the usefulness of NLP in the self.

Indeed, two heads are better than one. With innate greatness and NLP working together, one would surely be able to see beyond the usual and find the one that perfectly fits in his hand.

Learning to accept your self is but one important aspect of life. Attempts to explain it could be availed in different forms of media. However, if subjectively the self does not believe in its own capability then all other modes of explanation would be rendered moot and academic.

They say prescribed is an understatement. Indeed, it is. As much as we would like to keep abreast with the changing times, we are still, up to a certain extent, adamant as to the acceptance of change in our lives. To say the least, we do feel a little bit jealous of others and how they are able to live their lives yet still we sulk and let the seconds pass by without doing anything. To let time take its toll in you simply connotes an understanding that the self is not ready to recognize the value of change altogether.

Those who rely on jealousy to motivate them could despair from the dismay that jealousy brings forth in his life but to let jealousy take control of your life is a different thing. Although it could not be stopped nor could it be completely eradicated, change is one quintessential factor that needs to be tamed down. To underlie the notion of taming down exhibits the need to understand and comprehend the self in its entirety. Indeed, a holistic approach to a much growing self is what we need to be able to perform beyond what is expected of us.  

The reality behind Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP for brevity) lies unto the idea that the world is more than what one could ever expect of. Life itself is beyond the façade; it is more than what one could ever comprehend regarding the basics of life per se.  To deny the self of a holistic understanding simply denotes one’s cognitive ability to a pea. More like non-existent.

NLP invades the self. Indeed, it does. It seeks to empower the self from within thus enabling the growth and nourishment it fully deserves. To acknowledge NLP in the self means you are not afraid to partake in a journey beyond the usual. You gamely allow yourself to openly recognize and accept whatever life may bring forth. Though you are also in the midst of a confusion as to how life really works, still you can verily acknowledge the beauty of life per se. Simply put, NLP helps man prepare himself to one magical journey. As Buzz Lightyear of the famous Toy Story animated movie would gamely quip, “To Infinity and Beyond”.

NLP, as a self-improvement tool, wants to aid the individual realize his greatness. Although deemed a process and composed of methods, it certainly helps maintain the sanity and balance in the self. To say sanity appertains to the ability of one to think logically, reasonably and coherently.

   Thus, the magic of NLP goes beyond the horizon of jealousy and delves in the empowerment of the innate self.  

In a world full of distractions, conquering one’s fear of time is but one tough act to overcome. It takes more than will power and a bottle of energy drink before the light at the end of the tunnel could be seen. In other words, time could never be tamed nor could it ever be fathomed.

The intensity of the presence of time is inevitable. Indeed, time, like air, is a constant factor in life and limited as we are, we are only able to grasp its meaning in parts – never in full. We crave for a thorough understanding of how time works and what it really is. We yearn for its definition in order to tame it but since time immemorial, no particular and concise definition has been given.

The moment we become aware of time and its importance exemplifies the fact that time is but a quintessential requirement in our lives. To warrant the exactness of its meaning, although possible, is but a futile attempt to understand how it truly works. In other words, time, like life per se, could only be seen and felt but could never be understood.

As aforementioned, time operates like life per se wherein the nest and only way to understand it is through the experiences we stumble upon. Time could either encourage or discourage us from further aiming to live the life that we have always wanted. In other words, time is but an important factor in achieving our goals and objectives and further in satisfying our innate self.

With the help of Neuro Linguistic Programming (hereinafter referred to as NLP), it permits the limited human mind to grasp a portion of what time is without having to divulge too much effort into it. To say the least, NLP helps the individual condition his neurological and linguistic abilities in order to pave the way for a much acceptable way of communicating his thoughts and ideas to others. In other words, NLP seeks to ensure that every nanosecond of an individual’s life is worthy of cognition and worthy of remembering. The way NLP works ensures that the individual is duly empowered from within thus allowing him to see beyond time and learn to work with it.  In other words, NLP teaches one to control his urges to go against time and converts such into positive vibes that would help him live his life accordingly.

                                Time, though never on our side, could still be used to our advantage. How?
                                                  With Neuro Linguistic Programming, it is possible.

Highly acclaimed singer Mariah Carey once sang about being a hero. As per subjective understanding, I understood the necessity to believe in yourself thus becoming your own hero. Indeed, you are your own hero. Above all, you are capable of listening, comprehending and acting on all that puts a frown on your face. You may not be aware of it but you, and no one else, could help you alleviate yourself from the pain and suffering.


Thunder only happens when it’s raining; there is no smoke when there is no fire. Simply put, in every action there is indeed an equal or opposite reaction. Thus, the moment we let ourselves carelessly fly with the wind is congruent with our ability to think of ways to glide with ease thus lessening the turbulence that comes with it. Now, you might ask what is the relation to being your own hero? Well, to begin with, there is thunder because you caused the rain. More so, you have ignited the fire thus there is smoke. Simply put, you are your own worst animator, creator, contractor or whatever label you might want to add. You are the cause of everything.

To seek refuge in another is how we normally do things. However, that should not always be the case. Look no further, the search is over before it even began. The answer to our many impending questions lies on our own self. Yes, we are our own hero; our own answer to the problem. Though not fashionably graspable, we are our own hero. We hold the key to our happiness and not just any kind of happiness but genuine happiness.

With such, it is easy to rely entirely on the self alone and let go of anything external. Temporary happiness or bliss could be eliminated thus focusing on the ability to be truly happy. A happy ever after indeed.

Like Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP for brevity), it seeks to empower the self innately thus eradicating anything less than what the self deserves. Simply put, it nourishes the self accordingly thus permitting the life that one has always craved for. Yes, we are always on a constant craving; a life that is perfect, one like theirs. With NLP, although shaping the life in accordance to how successful people live theirs is possible and feasible at the same time, it enriches the individual to be his own entity. Aside from him being his own hero, he would be taught to accept his flaws and make better of what he has. In short, to develop the self entirely implies that he exhaust his entire self to his maximum potential. To be able to do such allows the self to see through the obvious and learn to expect the unexpected.

        Putting aside jealousy and embarking on a life long journey to greatness spells nothing but perfection to him.
                              Grope if you must, stand up and have a life according to your preference.

They say fall twice and get up thrice. Stop sulking and move on. To say such involves more than will power as it invokes the ability to control the self innately. Indeed, to be empowered from within enables the self to be at tune with the world and everything in it.

Life is in itself a roller coaster; one big looped roller coaster ride. The involvement of emotions and interplay of intellect with external factors enables the self to experience a different sense of ecstasy. To say the least, the self becomes reactive and responsive because of the power of the ride.

It is but human to experience highs and lows in life however it is also expected of us to get up and face the music. Letting go may be one tough task to accomplish but it is warranted of us to resort to such before it is too late. That whenever we fall down, we must get up and live. Indeed, we have to live, fight and act according to our life and how we want it to turn out. Besides, we possess the only power to steer the wheel in the right direction – no one else can.

With the help of Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP for brevity, one becomes ready for every turn, swerve and loop the roller coaster has to offer. One becomes accustomed but not immune to the various emotional disturbances thus allowing him to go have a steady ride. I would not dare say easy for life, like roller coasters, are not easy to handle rides.

The way NLP works cores upon the holistic set-up of the self. In other words, it seeks to empower the self in a manner that would allow it to deal with both the internal and external world. To say innate deals primarily with the self per se while the latter emphasizes on the outside world and dealings with others. NLP helps one be at par with how he wants his life to be and how he would like to deal with others meddling in his life. Indeed, life is all about taking and making chances with the circumstances that he or she is faced with – and this further includes dealings with others.

The way I see it, one’s ability to meddle in with the affairs of others enables him to experience pain and frustration at the same time. To say pain exemplifies the idea of falling down and learning how to get up. As aforementioned, instead of keeping in a fallen state, learn to get up –fight if you must.

Do not let negativity over power you, let positivity be your triton and light the path towards your goals and objectives. In that way, you are able to enjoy every turn, swerve and loop the roller coaster has to offer.

Ever been offered something you cannot decline? May it be material or immaterial, the main contention resides on the idea that you are not able to say “no” and regretted the moment you had to say “yes”. You make yourself believe that everything is okay despite the pain and remorse that is building up. In other words, you try to smile your way out of the situation.

Humans as we are, we normally handle situations without thinking of the possible consequences in the end. For us, the past cannot compensate the present or the future with the present. What we seek for is the ability of the self to deal with prevailing events and acts that we believe to contribute and affect our well-being. In other words, we focus our attention to those that we believe to satisfy us innately and allow us to attain our goals and objectives in life.

To belittle the ability of the self to choose and decide warrants an understanding that the self is not fully satisfied. To say the least, the self is not innately empowered. It is not as sturdy and as strong as we would want it to be. No, such notion does not connote incompleteness but rather when you say “not innately empowered” speaks of the lack of the fulfillment in the innate self and psyche that allows the self to develop and nourish the way that he has envisioned his life and self to be. In short, an innately empowered self is one that is balanced and cultivated in relation to having a life that he has always wanted.

To be able to steer the wheel and navigate the ship in the right direction is what Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP for brevity) does best. It imparts knowledge in the self that allows it to be at par with his vision in life. To emphasize on vision entails the understanding that the self is able to live out his dreams, aspirations and ideals. He is able to see the reality beyond and over his imagination. In short, NLP allows the self to forget about the past, enrich the present and foresee the future accordingly.

What NLP does is that it ensures the self of a life that is entirely different from the rest. Although through NLP the life of another, one that speaks of positivity, could be used as a pattern to redirect his life, still it must be understood that the self must be lived not in relation to how others live theirs but of how you wish to live and make the most out of your life. The decision to the kind of life you will have still resides in you; you are your own discretion.

  Therefore, the next time you are caught in between, be sure to fight the urge to give up and wave your white flag. 
                             Fight until you realize your mistakes and learn – that is how life should be!

I am an energizer bunny. Indeed, I am. I make the necessary adjustments as to the furtherance of my being. My day depends on my ability to decipher the world and its many codes. In other words, I am the sole bearer of my life torch.

In today’s busy world, my day depends on the things that are surrounding me. May it be material, situations or events, I depend on the impact such creates for my life.

I admit, I am one who gets easily affected by the things that are happening around me. I could get easily addicted to over-thinking and tiring myself of the confusion that it may bring; the intensity of which is tantamount to my ability to adopt and respond to the situation on hand. That, whichever direction I may choose is of my own discretion and nobody else’s.

It has been said that stress or a state of mental or emotional strain or suspense brought about by the external world has its positive effects. To state, stress enables the brain to cognitively process the situation down to its core. In short, it paves the way for the individual to enable the growth of the intellect through logic, rationality and ability of the individual to be reasonable. To be able to do such permits the development and nourishment of the self without having to depend on others and external world for answers; that the self is innately capable of figuring a way out.

The likes of Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP encapsulates the idea that the self is able to prevent, cure and eliminate the buildup of stress in the self. It further emphasizes on the ability of the self to rediscover his weaknesses and limitations and at the same time, convert them into his strengths. Yes, that is how NLP works. It seeks to help the individual to develop both his intellectual and emotional states and nourish his innate capacity to be immersed with others and that of the world in general.

The core idea behind NLP is to aid man into the way he establishes and create rapport with others. In the process, such notion also empowers him from within. To say the least, NLP is more than just a self-improvement method but more so as a process of discovering and rediscovering your own innate greatness to be able to live accordingly. In short, be the very person you have envisioned yourself to be in order to satisfy your life goals and objectives.

Therefore, the next time you are hit with the “stress bug”, smile. Indeed, smile your stress way and keep a happy disposition!

I

I am. .

I know I must.

I believe I have to.

I wish I could do it NOW.

I must in order to make me happy.

I need to.

I really do.

I know I can.

However,

What am I supposed to do to let you go?

I cannot let another day make me miserable.

I have to get up and erase the negativity inside me!


Most often than not, we become addicted to the idea of falling in love and finding our knight in shining armor. However, is it still possible to find genuine love? I admit, to be in a relationship has been one of life’s many surprises. You get pulled in by the intensity of the love you feel towards another that, most often than not, you forget about yourself. Yes, to fall in love means you become selfless – for the wrong reason.

Do not get me wrong but to be in love and being loved in return has its fulfilling advantages. However, it too has its moments. Like the aforementioned, you become selfless and think of another more than your own. You would rather be involved with him than consider your own well-being. In other words, you forget that you and your self need the attention, too. Although to give part and share yourself to another is but inevitable, it should be taken in consideration that not everything should be shared or given to another.

To be in love means independency and not dependency. When you feel like saying no, do so. Do not let yourself suffer from the bondage of keeping yourself in a relationship for no logical and apparent reason. In short, do not let your clamor for belongingness to overrule your rationality.

Although to cling onto another is a natural humanistic gesture, still it should not be the end all and be all of living and more so of your existence. Instead, even when you are in a relationship, keep abreast of your individuality – that individually you are complete and can survive on your own.

With the help of NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming, the self is able to see beyond the superficial and traverse into the depths of the psyche. To do such a thing implies an innately endowed and empowered self that is ready to share part of himself and accept part of others in his life, a process that enables the self to inspire and be an inspiration at the same time.

Furthermore, NLP aims to help the individual stand up and keep moving forward. The diagram above, in whatever way should it be read, cores upon the readiness of the self to be complete again. The arrow mainly symbolizes the ability of the self to foresee and the tip (“I” ) emphasizes that the end all and be all of everything that the individual does is for his own benefit. Thus, the diagram simply connotes a process of self-realization that NLP seeks to impart upon the majority.

Indeed, life is an hourglass but in the process, life is more than an arrow pointing forward than an hourglass.

Never did I imagine that I would end up not with you. I admit; I was already looking forward to a life of bliss and challenges with you; I had conditioned myself that, whatever happens, we would be together. We would overcome everything and live the life we have always hoped for. However, apparently things do not always fall into place – circumstances tend to hinder our quest for a life that we have always wanted.

Indeed, life is a big pool of surprises. It has so many things in store that even a lifetime is not enough to enjoy each and every piece of it. In other words, it is indeed more than the façade and deeper than the deepest part of the ocean. It is unending and at the same time uncertain. It knows of no boundaries, thus enables man to seek for the light at the end of the tunnel. Simply put, life is a masquerade that is never ready to be unveiled.

Humans as we are, we have the tendency to dwell on a particular circumstance and forego the development of the self. More often than not, we become stuck in a situation without knowledge of how to escape from such. We only have hunches and gut feel, but still no certainty. However, that is what makes life exciting – not knowing what would happen next encourages the development of our cognitive and emotional capacity to life live in the moment.


Sometimes, it is best not to think in order to let go of our inhibitions. We have to learn how to overcome overthinking in order to pursue our quest for a life like no other. Though unexpected situations and events are always present in our daily life struggles, we must learn how to let go and expect the unexpected. Through this way, we will be able to see life in its entirety and enjoy every bit of it – with or without challenges.

More so, we will be able to enhance our innate curiosity, thus enable our selves to seek further than our comfort zones. We will be able to imbibe change and at the same time accept its possible consequences that would, in one way or another, contribute to our wellbeing.

Like NLP, it seeks to further improve the self into extending beyond its limits. In other words, it enables the self to grow and develop to be more than what any individual has imagined. The likes of NLP, being a self-improvement mechanism that rallies behind the self towards the path that one wants to be in, is indeed a big help.

To begin with, NLP enables the self to explore and be a risk-taker more than ever. It further allows the self to pursue what it wants and extend its scope even further. Through NLP, the self is able to see beyond the horizon and imagine what it might be like to live the life he has always wanted.

Thus, NLP is not only a self-improvement tool or process, but also and more so, an aid in the quest to live life accordingly.

Emotional distraught is one of the most common disturbances in our lives. We get physically drained, emotionally battered and intellectually paranoid as we try to escape the clutches of emotional distraught. We allow pain to seep in and destroy our life. However, it is through such an emotional journey that we learn to accept and take hold of control.

The likes of emotional binging and “me time” hoarding are examples of an escape goat. We tend to dissuade from reality and settle for temporary happiness. We opt to be momentarily blinded by ecstasy rather than take time to achieve permanent happiness. Yes, there are two (2) kinds of happiness, and more often than not, we settle for the former because we are too tired to explore the depths of our innate self and psyche. In other words, we like to take the short cut as compared to the long and winding road.

With the help of NLP, we are able to face our fears of the unknown. We are now able to go beyond our comfort zones and exude confidence as we face life as it is. In other words, we are ready, willing, and able to fight the battle at whatever costs.

NLP prepares us to be innately strong. It aids us to fight our own inhibitions and take lead of our curiosity. More so, it seeks to empower us in accordance with the understanding that would aid the self to develop even further. Indeed, NLP tackles the holistic self over and above other mechanisms of self-improvement.

Although it is not “bad” to resort to what we are used to in order to ease the pain or get right back on track, still one must be aware of the possible consequences that would await in the long run. Emotional binging could resort to ailing and failing health conditions; impulsive buying could result to a financial breakdown, while depression could take away your sanity.

It is then important to allow a certain degree of “breathing area” in our lives to enable the growth of the self. Let us not overly crave for temporary happiness, although inevitably impossible, let us be observant of how we live our lives the way we want it to be and be who we yearn for.

                      The quicker we realize the importance of hard work, patience, and control in our lives, the better.

                      Thus, do not drench yourself in temporary happiness. Instead, nourish and enrich your innate self
                                                                  and truly feel happiness from within.